Why is it easier to apologize for casually bumping into a stranger on a crowded street, but when it comes to communicating with our nearest and dearest, saying sorry is hardest to do. The ability to apologize takes courage, and makes a significant difference in our relationships with others. Sometimes, it requires us to “fly out of our comfort zone.”
Making and accepting apologies gracefully are acts of courtesy and maturity. We learned as children these essential words convey a wealth of meaning to others. They are powerful in their ability to create positive interactions.
Sincere apologies can defuse volatile situations, as it is difficult for most people to remain angry with someone who takes responsibility for their own actions. Even if you are sure you are in the right, you can apologize for the way you handled the situation. Ask yourself, “Did I lose my temper?” Or, “Did I clam up?” If you said anything you regret, or used words intending to get back at someone, those can be opportunities to say you are sorry. Apologizing doesn’t always mean you are wrong and the other person is right. It simply means that you value your relationship more than your ego.
“It will be all right in the end. If it isn’t all right, it isn’t the end.” I’ve always admired this quote for its reminder that there is always work to be done. If things aren’t flowing smoothly, then we must not give up. Find out where the gap is between an ideal situation and the one you’ve got. Then take steps to fill the gap. If you still hold rancor or bitterness against someone, you haven’t come to closure or peace, and therefore more communication is needed. We encourage you to fly out of your comfort zone!
Here are some tip’s on how to do so: